My steps for development

In “My steps for development” I want to guide person with disabilities – and perhaps even to guide person without disabilities on how to achieve development. As usual, in my thoughts I will tell you a truth, my truth. I think there are many truths. Every human being has his own truth.

“My steps” as you’d see, may be similar or very different to other steps, my steps are of a deafblind person, in the belief that deaf-blindness is the condition that most “affects” the essence of society, because it implies the distance imposed by visual and hearing loss, as well as the impatience that generates communication difficulties . We do refer to deaf-blindness as the most dreaded condition to human beings: the “staying alone” as synonymous of abandonment, is a very different situation from “Solitude”, as a choice for enjoyment situation when we have no fear of ourselves.

In my life, I try to transmit and exercise “My steps for development”. We must never interpret these steps as ready. The steps are in the daily motions of life.
Knowing yourself
The first step, to know yourself – needs and abilities – takes time, so it does not fit at the time of a soap opera. All persons with disabilities, especially deaf-blind people must realize that nothing is static, so knowing yourself is a constant re-starting and it needs a lot of patience!

Controlling of emotions

Controlling emotions is the second step but you cannot reach it without passing through the first one, i.e., it is not possible to control our emotions without self-knowledge. You can only take a new step in the safety that the last step was solid. Controlling emotions plays an important role in our development. In everyday life I observe often the desperation and fear in persons with disabilities, as well as people who are deaf-blind, those emotions are essentially limited knowledge of ourselves.

Planning actions

Here we have the third step. We must know ourselves and control our emotion to plan actions. It’s a fact! Planning is the mainspring of development, but, a bad planning can knock you out in a short period of time. A bad planning will bring up the lack of emotional control and we are going to see clearly that I do not know myself as I imagined. I thought to be able to do that but in fact I have other needs. It’s pretty clear: if we know ourselves, we will be able to control our emotions and as a consequence of that, we will be able to plan actions that can reach our abilities, not our needs.

Guiding

Here we have the fourth step. When you know yourself, you control your emotions. When emotions are under control, it’s possible to plan actions and then, finally, guiding is possible. Guiding is the apex because we live in a society and although we have many abilities, there isn’t a perfect human being who doesn’t need any kind of support. I must warn that guiding can sometimes be very different from what we expect. It is possible that when we try to guide a person to help us, this person isn’t interested. If you face a person who isn’t interested, honestly, do not try to change this person. Turn around because you will find another person there who is really interested, for sure.